Aditya Tiwari battles to become India’s youngest single man to adopt a child with Down’s syndrome

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I fell in love when Binney first held my finger and wouldn’t let go.

Everyone appreciated former Miss Universe Sushmita Sen when she adopted a girl child and became a single parent. After so many years, the same instance has been repeated; but this time by a man! Aditya Tiwari, a 28-year-old Pune-based software engineer became the youngest single man in India to adopt a child.

This all began when Aditya visited an orphanage of the Missionaries of Charity in Indore. There he first spotted Binney, now one year and nine months old, who was abandoned by his parents from Bhopal because he suffers from Down’s syndrome and has a hole in his heart.

I had gone to gift a few things to the children there on my father’s birthday in September 2014. There were a lot of kids there, but Binney caught my eye because he was lying on a cot, away from all the revelry. When I went to play with him, he stuck to me and I felt an instant affection. At that time, though, I hadn’t given a thought to adopt him, says Aditya Tiwari.

Aditya revisited the orphanage a month later. He found that while many other children had been adopted, no family was willing to take Binney. That was the moment when he decided that Binney would be his son.

But, there were several roadblocks for Aditya. Initially his parents objected. Then the orphanage authorities told him they could not let an unmarried man to adopt. The Missionaries of Charity are against single-parent adoptions. For many months Aditya kept visiting the orphanage and tried to convince sisters. He then contacted the women and child welfare (WCD) department and sent about 100 mails to Maneka Gandhi.

I complained to Prime Minister’s Office too. Gandhi spoke to me over the phone and said she was asking the Central Adoption Resource Authority (CARA) to work with the Bhopal Child Welfare Committee and resolve this matter. After my complaint, Binney was ordered to be moved to Matruchaya, another adoption agency in Bhopal, said Tiwari.

The authorities at Matruchaya remained reluctant, even after Maneka Gandhi’s visit to the orphanage to see Binney and her instructions to hand over Binney to Aditya immediately. But determined Aditya didn’t give up.

Once again, I petitioned the PMO and WCD. The central government sent a notice to the state government and finally due to mounting pressure, in December 2015, I got a mail asking me to take Binney home between January 1 to 8.

Binney, who is now with his father Aditya, has got a new name, Avnish Tiwari. Aditya took him to a pediatrician who said that he might not require an immediate surgery for the hole in his heart.

As far as Down’s syndrome goes, I have read about it and consulted doctors. I know my son’s mental growth will be slow but unlike his biological parents, I won’t give up. The doctor says if Binney is around children, it will be better for him. Thankfully, there is a daycare in the office building, where I plan to keep him. I also get adoption leave for 150 days. But so far, there hasn’t been a need. He has fit right into my schedule, Aditya Tiwari.

 

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62 Responses

  1. Shanmu says:

    Great job and all the best for u

  2. Meena says:

    You are a very kind & courageous young man. All my good wishes & prayers for your happiness with Avnish

  3. Meena says:

    You are a very kind & courageous young man. All my good wishes & prayers for your happiness with Avnish

  4. Vinod says:

    Really proud of you young man. May God bless you and your child

  5. Vishnu sanjay says:

    “GOD cannot be seen only can be felt in human like YOU”

  6. Mrs felcy h says:

    It takes courage to do the noble deed and commitment. May God bless your endeavours for the humane qualities in you. You are a true follower of your religion, for I believe every religion inspires only to do good to others. Bravo

  7. abhilash says:

    sir aditya…Respect from Dubai…..we all just commenting on your action which is actualy an effortless job ..but non of us are ready to do such action …hence could not find a word to approciate u…eagerly waiting to contact u to get ur contact…

  8. Beena says:

    Thank you for making the world a better place to live in ..

  9. dr. sanghavi says:

    Hello Mr. Aditya. I am a Homoeopathic doctor at Mumbai. I hv been treating down syndrome cases with hpathy medicines to improve their higher functions n can help him resolve hole in heart too. I treat special children free of cost at my clinic on every tuesdays since last 4 years. All near by schools are extremely happy with our results abd thus keep referring their students to us. It would be my previlage to treat Avnish in case if u wish too. God bless u. Humanity prevails!!
    I hv special bonding with special children.

  10. Shreya says:

    I can’t even imagine in my thoughts, and u did it at the age of 28 are u serious!!! So much proud of u boss… See this is what India is… And we fool still stuck in daily routine and curse ourselves for lack of excitement… Salute u adittya u have inspired us.

  11. Dr.sandhya says:

    Hi..I m a pediatrician and I treat a lot of children. It’s commendable that u adopted a child with down syndrome. I just wanted to share that although down’s are a little slow to catch their development, with good training and stimulation they are able to live up a good respectful longer life. The heart disease association with down’s is very common, but are treatable either medically or surgically. So don’t bother about his health, he’ll be just fine with a caring father like u.

  12. Meenakshi Kothari says:

    Your step is really commendable .A big salute to you.God bless you :)

  13. ashwanth says:

    ADITYA…. I am sure life has more for Avnish through you. You stand tall to show this world how to sow back, people like you make the country proud………… may your spirit and story fill many souls… Congratz on the dad status and wishes and prayers.

  14. lavanya says:

    You are a beautiful soul. May god bless you and Avnish. Love you both.

  15. Chandrasekar says:

    God bless you both.

  16. Subrata Sengupta says:

    Thank you Aditya…..God bless you

  17. Amrutha S A says:

    Hatss off Aditya jiiii….. i am single,actually i want to adopt a baby girl but my worry is if any thing happen to me no one will be there to take care off baby after that, so in this situation government rules are allow me to adopt a child?

  18. sushmitha says:

    Hatss Off to u sir

  19. Arun says:

    Hats off to you brother…god bless you both

  20. Sanu says:

    This is so beautiful…You are a true example of Humanity and Affection!!!!!

  21. Pooja says:

    Thanks Adithya
    great work … I m sap HR qualified but having no job . Recently 19 April dilivered baby girl . Was so worried about her how will I get job what willi do .. But ur commitment for ur son giving me strength . Thanks

  22. Gauri muthye says:

    Hii Aaditya ,it’s great job done by you ! Definitely both of you are connected through your soul. All the best ! May god give you strength for your decision to take care of dear one.god bless both of you.

  23. Deb says:

    Aditya…. just splendid job u have undertaken…. all the best for ur future better half who can be as kind and courageous as u and tk care of ur son ……..

  24. Sundeep says:

    Hat off to the gentle man. Loving child greatest gift

  25. Madhu says:

    Hats off to ur love and commitment!

  26. augustine says:

    Congrats dude you really make ur proud and its so nice to see that humanity still prevails

  27. Priya says:

    In a country like India, men in general don’t take 100% day to day responsibility of their own kids. and therefore what Aditya did is way to great and do be admired.

    @Aditya: God bless u and ur baby but it will surely get tough with time. Be strong be clear…. N everything will be sorted.

  28. sanchita Joshi. says:

    Hatts off…no words for your spirit.

  29. rajat says:

    Aditya big thanks to you from everyone and God bless you both.
    Hats off to you

  30. Abhi says:

    Where,,,, there is a will , there is a way.

  31. Anonymous says:

    To adopt a child at 28..and that too a child with Down’s syndrome..God bless you today and in future.really touched by your bravery. They refer to children with Down’s syndrome as special children.. I KNOW they are special, not because they are different but because they do invoke the special person INSIDE each of us.

  32. Gowri says:

    You are real hero Aditya ji Iam always inspired by sushmitha who adopted similar kind of baby few years ago now you also added to the inspiring list

  33. bhuavana prem says:

    Hats off to you man .. you are a real MAN full of Humane

  34. Anonymous says:

    This is simply superb….kudos to you Aditya…you are a role model for all in our society…may God bless you and your son with all the happiness in this world…

  35. Mahesh says:

    Best wishes to you n Avnish

  36. Deep says:

    One needs real guts to do this. ADITYA A salute to u buddy.. God bless u…

  37. anupama says:

    Deeply touched by this….hats off to you .

  38. Dharinee says:

    Congratulations new daddy!!! Hats off to Your act of kindness!!

  39. Smita says:

    I’m deeply touched…had tears in my eyes.Knowing that you will have to compromise in the quality of your life you have selflessly taken this hold step.Salute you Mr Aditya.May God bless you both

  40. Anonymous says:

    One little story can bring big changes to someone’s life. Great job!! salute!!

  41. Anonymous says:

    commendable job done bro

  42. Anna Joshi says:

    Hi Aditya,
    God bless you.

  43. Nisa says:

    Man with a golden heart.

  44. Sharad Jha says:

    Salute to you Aditya. Love to kiddo. God Bless…

  45. Nikhil says:

    Salute u Mr ankit
    Proud of u

  46. Ligi says:

    Awesome job Ankit. God bless you and the lovely baby. He would be absolutely fine with the love and care that you and your family would provide him.

  47. Koushik Basu says:

    You have a heart as big as the horizon.

  48. Shalaka says:

    Awesome job. Feels fantastic to hear about people like u. I am happy to share that even we are proud adoptive parents of a baby girl after having my own biological daughter.
    Kuddos to u.
    Njoy parenthood!!

  49. Anonymous says:

    well done….great job sirji people like u deserve a salute….its not easy but u didnt give up….

  50. Reshmi says:

    I have no words to tell you the greatness you have done. It is par humanity…this is godliness!! I wish you and Avi the best life has for you. hats off!

  51. Ketan says:

    Touched and overwhelmed….people like us just think about it and then i see people like you who sets example like this….. Salute;respect; best wishes that u succeed in becoming a successful parent

  52. Ankita says:

    God Bless You, Aditya and Avnish!!

    Inspired by your noble deed!!

  53. Sarita says:

    Hey,

    Hats off to you yaar..one need to have lot of courage to take such step when baby is not well..you are just wonderful….ur lil baby will be recovered soon and would be proud of u being his dad.

    Cheers,
    Sarita

  54. name says:

    Salute Adityabhai..!! Just had tears in my eyes while going through this article…people like you let us still believe in humanity & greatness!!

  55. anirban says:

    god bless u. u r just awesome

  56. Shweta Bhimsaria says:

    Great job…Wish a very long and healthy life for Avnish.

  57. banani says:

    Salute to you and may god’s blessings be with you and your son.

  58. Anonymous says:

    Wow ,…..what a great job

  59. Anonymous says:

    The world need people like you …bravo!!

  60. Dr Farah Bano says:

    “Did not allow me ” correct it

  61. Dr Farah Bano says:

    Mr.Aditya Tiwari
    You are simply an angel and an example for everyone. Whatever you did it was always my wish and still to adopt at least one child. But my circumstances did not allowed me.
    Let’s see if I can do it in the future.
    Allah bless you and your child with everything. Ameen.
    Dr Farah Malik

  62. Sanghamitra Sharma says:

    Hi
    Aditya..
    I m 4m Assam..i read ds..its really heart toching..bt at d age of yours..u adopted ds baby..its a grt job yaar..bt i would lyk say u dat..d same problms has my nephew..he is son of my elder sis..bt nw he is totally ok n hndsm boy..n nw he read in class 12th standard…His parents admit him in Max Hosputal..Delhi n aftr a major operation nw he is completely cure…xoo i jst suggest u dat go n consult wd doctor..ur lvly cute baby definitely will b cure in one day…GOD BLESS BOTH OF YOU